EveryLady: Before you say, I do

As a single lady, one of the major parts of your life you should be serious with, is your marital life. It is something you are investing your whole self(life) into, you have to work-walk into it, spiritually and physically. Don't just want to go down the aisle, do a diligent work to save your head or it will ache you.
Let us look into some views that can help you.

-The power of identification.
Because many of us are so far away from self, we permit just anybody to make a mockery of our woman pride. If you are close to yourself and you know who you are, you will surely know the type of man that suit your life. Making a choice is no pride, it is simply knowing what you want and going for it. The hype, the level you claim, sometimes take you far from the reality of who you are, this freely lead you into the hands of men hghygwho do not have honour for us. Know yourself  and go for the kind of man that will do your life good. He may not be as rich as you are, if you will humble yourself in love, you will have the peace and love you need.
      Those of you, who marry men because of wealth or fame, you make mistake of your lives. Some of those guy have wrong mindset about women, this make them a very wrong choice for you. You matter, do not allow society or 'class' to push you wrong, a simple choice of a good and gentleman is not too much, you deserve happiness.

-Courtship
If he escape your self test, he should not escape courtship test. Court for real, not this sunrise in the midnight courtship people go about doing. Still being yourself, get to truly know the man and who he is. This Mr. Biggs courtship, no go work, the deceit courtship, no go work. Even if he gives you heaven and earth, do not forget he matters. Instead of first taking the gifts that will that will block your tongue, tell him to reveal himself to you, show you, his true self. He should be your top, the main person you need. Examine, does he fit or not? That you are a woman should not cripple your sense of choice, just 'be temperate in all things. He is the one you give your head to crown it, he should not be a crown of thorns. Before the I do, the opening of skirt, the zipping of trousers, know him. Does his way go with yours? Can he in himself make you happy without those attachments? His attitudes, will they aid your life or mar it? If he gives himself to you, he will not hide himself, both his weaknesses and strengths. If he show you these and you sure you can go on, go with him. If not, take the big turning. He may not be good for you but be the best for another. Make a firm life decision.
     The courtship of material gift to entice women to marry him, result in hot marriage. Use the time of courtship well, it is for  both of you to know each other well.

-Never forget your vision and dreams.
If the man you are dating does not believe  in women rising to fame, he will kill your vision if you give him the chance. That is what I guess is the problem with the some men marrying our celebrities, they have inner fear they cannot confess, 'Will she ride me, she is famous, she is rich, she can be independent, if I don't clamp her, she may want to ride me' So, they let their fear control their hand, trying to bring her to subjection before she rides them. Love is enough, to keep her submissive. A successful woman need a good man most. She needs people of substance in her life that will be wetting her garden as she wet other people's garden. If she knows you truly love her, she will never want to lose you. Love her and stop intimidating her because of your fear.
    If a man is not in support of your vision, don't claim love. He will kill it. So many women's destiny had been buried by the kind of men they married.
, the men who had no room for woman success. If you marry one like this, you are in it, every time you try to rise, he will want to force you down.

-Did he value women.
Try to get your man's orientation about women, you will find out, if he values women or not. If he does not, there is tendency that, that will reflect in his way of behaving. No matter what you are, he does not have value for you due to his experience or background (men that come from where female children are not regarded as children) And so, he can treat you any how. His sense of value for women is very low, so he can treat you very low.

-The home he comes from.
Forget about class or title, some men have poor family orientation and they did nothing about it. They did not think of getting a better life, they go with the dreg and feed their own wives with it. If you must marry anybody, try to get to his family house and see how the parents live. See the relationship between his parents, try to get the father and know who he is. See what they think of female children in his house. If it is a home where they see female as inferior, expect such, except if he had change by exposure. If not, he will not give you a chance to speak, any attempt to proof you have something to offer will earn you a slap. Even if he is good, and his family member are bad, it is a no, no.

-Seek spiritual counsel
God above all things. If you believe, then above all your effort, still seek God's guidance, what is hidden to us is open to him. He will guide you right.

     Know your man one on one. All these also apply to men, many of them are crying in silence, their woman is just too simple, she bring them hurt in their soul. Hmmm, many wished they could turn back the hand of the clock, well, too late. The ones just coming take caution, yes caution and pray well. Bad spouse is hell on earth. He or she can destroy anything you carry or think of doing.