MOULDING A WHOLE CHILD
Having children is the joy of many couple coming together as one. Not having, is pain to those who do not, they search for it with everything. As essential as many seek children, they do not know how their lives affect the lives of the children. They raise them with basic necessity with education. Those who have extra, give the children extra threat. Many parents labour is solely for their children and they work hard to meet their need but they fail in one thing, moulding the children with their characters and attitudes. I tell you, if I ask just Nigerians, whose parents' attitude has had adverse effect on their lives to write me, I will have response in millions. That doesn't mean all of them are from poor background, it has nothing to do with wealth or poverty. It is all about your ATTITUDES especially toward your spouses.
Parents, raising a child, is beyond food, clothing, shelter, education. It is moulding a life, building a person, giving a life direction both consciously and unconsciously. I tell you dad and mum, they need to be moulded whole. You are not speaking to them with your attitude to your spouse, but you are acting out something. Action speaks louder than voice. By your action, you are imprinting something in their hear, is either positive or negative.
Some children do not desire marriage just because of what either parents had done to the other. Many are living an unhappy life because of the attitudes of their parents. While you are there, beating her, calling her names, cursing, abusing her people, disrespect her, you are busy imprinting wrong impression about men in their hearts. When you call him names, dishonour him or do whatever you do, you are imprinting wrong idea into your children, making them view life from wrong angle. You parents, are the first role models for your children, their first life lessons is from you, your impact last long.
Do not seek material things for them alone, build them psycho logically right. Put on right attitude to mould your children, for a better life. Check through your life, ask yourself, how is my life affecting my children, positive, negative? How is your relationship with your wife or husband, is it affecting the children positively? You, who abuse your wife till she becomes unhappy, has stroke, hypertension, desire the undesirable or mentally unstable, what have you imprinted in the heart of your children? You, who have turn your husband to mockery, making him feel less of himself, you are imprinting wrong things on the heart of your children. Thus make them grow into bad or unhappy adults. Their psychology in relationship and marriage is tampered with, this sometimes lead them to what they should not do, joining bad friends, cult, doing drug, just to seek happiness.
Please mothers and fathers, build yourself good, know that you are influencing your children in a way. Change your attitudes that are not good enough, love your wife, honour your husband and live a life that will make children happy.
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