From a father's view III : A shocker from my son.

(Little things that count. Family)

Men,  you need to spend real time with your children. You may ask, for what? I tell you, it is for you to know what is going on in their minds, the world they embed there which will later be the life they manifest(what is in them, they will manifest, and it has direct link to your name). I don't share time with my kids before now, until I heard a friend of mine talk of his experience with his son (His son is a friend to my son, they go to same school).
      My friend asked his son on what he thought of the future and the son replied, 'The cults own the world. All the big men you see belong to one or the other, so dad,  I am in' In for cult? The dad was shocked. 'This son might have been getting this some where' He thought. When he pressed him to know where, he told him that a friend in school had been telling  them this as influenced by the boy's father. 'There had been gap' my friend exclaimed, 'I have not taken time to sow seed like words in my son. I left him to grow with vacuum and then other people were filling it' This moved me to speak to my son who was in J S S 3. I got the shock  of my life. He had gone farther than I thought on a wrong path.
      I purposely took him out on an evening drive and I began to ask him questions. The first thing I noted was the slang that discoloured his words. I kept quiet to that and went on.  Being a friend to my friend's son,  I asked him about wealth. Same thing! 'The cults the rule world, what is the worth of a life that dwell in poverty, my soul, my money' I was shocked, little Morgan had gone this far, a boy just crossing to S S S1. I took time to explain to him that, self discovery, diligent, and God's blessing is what makes rich and not exchanging your soul for money. With my words, he got a different understanding but his face showed that something was wrong. I enquired about what was wrong. He had gone ahead the lined,  he had joined the one a friend called him to. My spirit fainted within me. I composed myself, that would be solved by reporting to the school authority.
     It didn't end there, I checked him in to a fast food joint. Then we talked more, I tell you, I had almost lost my son. I am not saying this in pride, I have good values,  kudos to my sound background but I wasn't  spending time with my children. It was just bursting in and out,  looking for money for them but in one important thing I was missing. He told me his girlfriend was one person who lured him in. Girlfriend? I was surprised, he was to me too young for that. Vision and maturity before women. If you don't know  where you care going,  they can draw you to theirs, whether positive or negative. I told him, ' You need to discover yourself at this age,  know your passion,  talent  or get an Idea, build up yourself to maturity before thinking of girlfriend; a big distraction to young hearts'. I told him he needed to break up. He shared many of his view with me,  which I found wrong. I thought within myself,  I have failed in this aspect. How can my son be this far apart from me. The bad friend he had, his view about life, the lack of relationship  between parents and children, all drowning him in a dark water. I determined to change his school and warned him about bad company. I told him moving with bad company corrupt good manner as they had done to him.  I changed his school but told the proprietor before doing that.
Any hole that exist, will give room to a bad influencer an opportunity. I took time out with my girls,  they were fairer but had theirs own view I don't buy into. so I changed all of them from the school they were going, spend time with my children, engaging  their minds positively, showing them some life values and how it works, bought books for them to study and learn and help them build a sound mind. I got a better them after that and I was happy